Safety Fears for online daters as number of catfish treble in a decade | #catfish #romancescam #datingscam #onlinedating #datingadvice #datingtips #datingapp #writingcommunity #iamwriting

In my Exclusive News Story about safety fears for online daters, the article talks about how the number of trolls, perverts and scammers on internet dating sites and apps has allegedly trebled within nearly a decade, sparking fears and concerns for online safety and leading to calls for tighter regulation.

The platforms see approximately three times as many “sinister, exploitative individuals” as there were before their popularity exploded in the early 2000’s.

Singletons looking for love and romance must now contend with more “huddled, fraudsters and worse” than ever, putting innocent members – and especially first-time users – at risk.

The Federal Trade Commission in the US also issued a warning to consumers in July 2018, about an increase in online romance scams, where known cases in the US tripled between 2012 and 2016.

It’s often difficult to spot a romance scammer and can be hard for dating apps to stop them setting up an online dating profile, as they tend to be very clever and very manipulative, but there are precautions that you can take and signs that you can look out for.

For example, spelling mistakes and the use of bad grammar; the lack of photos posted; only one photo posted – but it’s usually of someone who looks absolutely stunning (they often use photos taken from modelling sites and magazines); someone who contacts you from another country; someone who refuses to talk to you on the phone or by Skype; someone who always makes an excuse not to meet up; someone who asks you for money; – it’s basically a grooming process and the scammer will ask you for money in the name of love. They prey on people’s loneliness, desperation and weaknesses.

The alarm bells in your head should also start ringing if other users of Online Dating sites and apps want to swap phone numbers straight away, or want to meet up with you almost immediately. Tread carefully and don’t swap numbers with someone immediately. If they’re not after a quick bunk-up, they could be scammers who will lie to you with the aim of stealing your hard earned cash. Never give out your financial details to anyone, or tell someone where you live. They may also be lying to you about their relationship status, as it could be that they’re married and are only looking for sex.

They could also be a very dangerous individual who is looking to cause you harm. The number of sex attacks involving dating apps is on the rise and this is where I believe dating apps should be doing more to help protect their users.

Worryingly, the number of sex attacks reported is likely to be a lot higher. Some attacks are not reported due to sheer fear, or the shame and humiliation that people often feel in such a situation. Often, victims of a sexual assault will blame themselves and people will often be angry with themselves, feeling they lost control of the situation. People will often meet someone online without telling anyone, as many people still have a stigma against online dating. If you’re a woman especially, let someone know where you’re going on a date. Nowadays, you can also put a GPS tracker on your phone and link it to a friend’s phone so they can see where you are at any time.

You can read my Exclusive News Story here which looks at what dating apps could be doing better to help prevent scammers from contacting you.

My new book, Love at First Swipe, also provides sound advice on how you can spot a romance scammer. It’s available now on Amazon UK priced £8.99 in paperback and £3.99 as an eBook.

You can also visit my website for more dating news and advice: https://loveatfirstswipe.online/

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Online Dating – First Impressions #firstimpressions #onlinedating #dating

You only get one chance to make a good first impression. Not only will you be judged on your appearance, but also on your attitude and personality as well. You should feel excitement at the prospect of meeting your date for the first time. At the same time, feeling nervous too is perfectly normal, as both these feelings go hand-in-hand.

In this modern age of online dating, it’s more nerve-racking than ever before to meet someone in person for the first time. Hopes and dreams are created through the initial conversations you have online. Your expectations are higher than if you met someone in a bar, as you already have a virtual connection with that person, albeit not a physical one.

You may suffer disappointment should your date turn out to be different to the pre-conceived image you had formed in your mind. That being said, the person you meet can sometimes exceed your expectations, or they can grow on you in time and vice-versa. It’s best not to look too far ahead before you meet your date in person. That way, if you do suffer disappointment, it’s not something that you will dwell on for too long.

Make sure the first impression you give is a great one. A first impression is made within the first seven seconds after meeting someone new. When you meet someone for the first time, your date will be making a rapid inventory of your build, smell, height, smile, eye contact, handshake, kiss, confidence and how you present yourself. You will also be making your own inventory of them.

One golden rule is to practice good hygiene. Whilst looks aren’t everything, both men and women are often impressed by a person who appears to take pride in their appearance and by someone who looks after themselves. Make sure you are clean, that you wear your favourite clothes or outfit (but don’t look scruffy), splash on your favourite perfume or aftershave, smile often, keep good posture, make good eye contact with your date and keep your body relaxed.

Be kind to your date as well and don’t treat them badly. Whether you end up liking each other or not, you’ve both invested a lot of time and energy into preparing for your date, so don’t be rude and don’t disappear on them.

Most important of all, be yourself. Yes, of course you have to make a big effort and you may be very nervous, but try to relax and show your date what you are really like as a person.

How many couples tie the knot with someone they have met online? #onlinedating #marriage #love #loveatfirstswipe

The stigma that was once attached to Online Dating has well and truly disappeared, with around one in four of us now finding love online.

The rapid advances in technology over the past few years and the ever-increasing popularity of the online dating industry mean it’s easier and quicker than ever before for us to meet new people. We can do this at the click of a button or by swiping right on someone’s profile using our smartphone.

Online dating is also now the most popular way that spouses-to-be meet. As time goes by and more happy couples decide to the tie the knot, the percentage of married couples who meet by swiping right on their smartphone is likely to increase significantly. Sociological scientists have seen a trend of heterosexual couples who meet online and pop the question quickly. One study has concluded that couples who meet online tend to get hitched much sooner than couples who meet offline.

Dating apps have fast tracked marriages, as people meeting online know they are meeting someone who wants the same thing. When two compatible people meet and have lots in common, there is no reason for things to go slowly.

According to ‘The Knot’, the leading online wedding brand, in 2017, 19% of brides in the US (1 in 5) reported meeting their significant other online.

17% of those married met through online dating and 2% met through social media outlets. This was a total increase of 3%, up from 14% in 2015 (for those who met through online dating).

Other popular ways that couples met include through friends (17%), college (15%) and work (12%).

This rise in digital dependence continues through each step of the wedding planning journey, where 9 in 10 couples used mobile devices for wedding planning activities in 2016.

The statistics are based on The Knot’s recently released results of ‘’The Knot 2017 Jewellery & Engagement Study’’. Their biannual comprehensive report, the largest of its kind, surveyed more than 14,000 engaged or recently married brides and grooms from the US to uncover the trends and financial spending habits of proposals in America.