I’ve drawn on my own experiences in the world of online dating, to compile a tried and tested set of tips that will help every would-be dater. These five simple tips, are a must for anyone looking for lust or love online:
1) Don’t say cheese – The importance of your main photo:
Your main photo is the most crucial photo that you upload onto your dating profile and it should say as much about your personality as it does about your face. If you get this photo wrong, you could miss out on speaking to many potential suitors.
The majority of people won’t bother looking at your other photos before swiping left or right on your profile, so you should ensure that your main photo is also your BEST photo. Don’t go all David Brent though, as relaxed shots are often far better than professional, cheesy ones.
2) Looking 50 is great if you’re 60 – Uploading the right choice of photos:
Make sure you upload at least three photos and that they’re recent photos, not photos of you from 10 years ago! Also, make sure your photos show you in a good light. You should be smiling or having fun, but not looking miserable! You should include photos of yourself that are flattering.
Uploading colourful, varied and fun profile photos is essential to creating a great online dating profile. Make sure your photos are representative of who you are.
Upload photos of you glammed up, dressed down, resting and letting your hair down. You should project yourself as a multidimensional person and uploading photos such as these to your profile will reflect this.
If you’re looking for love, not lust, avoid posting photos of your abs, muscles or cleavage (and any other part of your naked body for that matter). Users will think that you’re only after something casual. While it’s clear you are very confident about how you look, you will come across as arrogant. Users may think you are superficial and spend more time focusing on your muscles and cleavage rather than developing other parts of your personality.
3) Better slapped by a truth than kissed with a lie – Creating an honest profile:
Creating your profile is the hardest part when registering yourself on a dating site, but it’s also the most important. You need to make an effort and write something about yourself in your profile, even if it’s just a few lines. If you don’t have anything in your profile, people will think you’re lazy and will think you might be hiding something. Make sure you tell the truth and use words that reflect positivity.
Try to elaborate on your likes and interests. Far too many users use the same old clichés – “I’m sociable”; “I love movies”; “I like animals” – which are inevitably ignored. Instead, think of something interesting that you could add, such as why you’re sociable and in what circumstances; what movies you like and why; and what kind of animals you like and whether you have any. You could also list any hobbies you have and any sports or gym activities that you like playing or participating in. People need to imagine how they would fit into your life, so you should give them enough information to make them want to know more about you.
If you lie about something in your profile such as what you look like, your age, or what you do in your spare time, it’s not a great start and you must remember that the truth will always come out in the end. Ultimately, it will end in disappointment for you both.
4) Someone photographed next to a tiger, lion, or fast car – Don’t come across as arrogant:
This person will come across as arrogant and deluded. They think that posting a photo of them up close and personal with a big cat will vastly increase their sex appeal and desirability to other singletons. How can people sense you are a potential lover if you put up a tiger-selfie?? The general idea is that women love travel and danger, so if a man wants to attract a girl, all he has to do is demonstrate this in his profile picture and they feel that by uploading a photo of themselves with a big cat or a flashy car is the best way to do this!
5) Take great caution when posting photos – Think Safety & Security first:
Do not post photos with your home or work-place in the background, nor pictures of your children or anyone else’s children. Check your pictures before you post them. It’s very easy for someone to find out more about you simply from the photos you post online. You do not want a stalker, nor someone who could use any information they have found about you, to blackmail you, or even harm you or those closest to you!
You can read more about how to create a great online dating profile in my article in Loaded online magazine. My article also provides advice on where to meet someone and how to stay safe on a first date, plus, how first impressions really do count and the difference between confidence and arrogance.
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