Every relationship will have its ups and downs. When things are good between you and your partner, the world is a much happier place. When things are not so good, you’ll feel sad, so it’s important to know how to handle such a delicate and potentially tricky situation.
We struggle in relationships largely because we haven’t learned the essential skills and techniques which influence relationships and enables them to thrive. We don’t have specific training for relationships when we’re younger, so we’re influenced by those closest to us when growing up and not everyone is surrounded by adults who set a good example.
For some people, it takes longer to hone the skills and techniques needed for a healthy relationship. However, it’s often the other person who actually needs help to improve their relationship skills and techniques.
Life experiences also affect how we feel and how we think about certain situations.
As a sidenote, if you’ve been chatting to someone online and you’ve built up a great virtual relationship with that person, it’s not a guarantee that you’ll like each other when you meet them face-to-face, so you should try to meet them as soon as possible, to avoid any potential heartache, as that person may not quite be the same person you had pictured in your mind.
In general, most relationships can be rescued providing you are both willing to talk, listen, compromise and be understanding. Here are my top 3 tips which will help you improve your relationship:
1) Listen to your partner –
Communication is absolutely key in any relationship – and in anything you do in life in general. You might not agree with everything your partner says, but don’t be rude and don’t interrupt them when they’re talking, even if you want to say something. Hear them out, calmly then convey your points of view and see if you can compromise. Something may be said which you didn’t realise was the case, so there may be a genuine misunderstanding. It’s so much healthier to actually talk to one other.
2) Don’t have an ego –
If you let your ego come between you and your partner, your relationship won’t last long. Playing the blame game or wanting to have the last word is not a good idea. Be understanding. It could be that you fear rejection and perhaps you’ve had bad experiences in the past which may have led to you feeling like this. This feeling can also cause anxiety.
3) Be appreciative –
Don’t take your partner for granted. We can get too comfortable in a relationship, but you have to appreciate all the little things they do for you from time to time. Your partner should also reciprocate this appreciation. Showing your appreciation can encourage thoughtfulness between you and your partner and should promote more positive feelings between you both.
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